Im just not having fun

so im about 100 hours into poe 2 and if you look at my last few play sessions this is how it goes.

I log in. do a map with nothing in it. do another map with nothing in it. get to a map with a boss, socket in my best way stone for sustain. get 1 shot because I made a slight mistake. loose the map. and the way stone. log out of the game

I log in. do a few maps with nothing in it. die to an on death effect, look at having to re run the same map again to continue moving towards the content I wanted to do. sigh then log out of the game

Today I logged into my grenade gemling legionnaire and got 1 shot by a boss doing an attack I couldn't see because there were half a million explosions on my screen, logged out logged onto my dead eye. who proceeded to die because 5 ghost mobs went invisible and flew at her in 5 different angles boxing her in and killing her in half a second

earlier in the day I was running crypt and as soon as i went though a door i got killed by several casters who were out of line of sight that killed me as soon as they were visible on my screen

to stress there are not badly geared characters. they are both fully res capped. one has 45% Armor and 47% evasion the other has 20 Armor and close to 60 evasion, life on every item

and my conclusion is. I'm making progress but I'm just no having fun. I work 50 hours a week, sometimes I am tired and its really not fun to play a game where you get horribly punished for every half second mistake, i don't want to play a game where i feel like if im not at 100% locked in with a coffee and an energy drink then there is no point trying.

1. it sucks so hard to loose a map and a way stone and the content inside that map.
2. it feels awful to go into a map and know that there is no boss and no content in a map.
3. it sucks to die to on death effects
4. it sucks to die to things that feel unfair such as invisible mobs surrounding you or ranged mobs hiding behind a visual artefact, or bosses using abilities you cant see because of visual clutter from skills.

Yeah that doesn’t sound like a fun endgame at all

Just need a better build.

the death effects and on-ground attacks.
they are not noticeable.
not fun

Critical error found.

This game is for those who live extremely relaxed life and feel the need of shake and some stress, all that in a relatively safe way of playing videogame.

Those who already enough stressed irl..
You know what's next happens.

update died this morning to an on death effect from a mob that exploded a good 5 seconds after I had killed it radius of the explosion was so large that even dodge rolling didn't get me out of the way of it, on the bright side i did pick up an exault just before it killed me